Gender theatre
Straight people don't date to get to know each other; they play roles and then get confused when someone acts out of character and they realize they don't know who they're sleeping with
As a girl, I was socialized to derive much of my self-worth and sense of being grounded in my own sexuality less from my own desire and more from my capacity to evoke desire in other people. It’s often repeated that men have an object-based sexuality while women’s is more delicate and nuanced and unknowable and full …